Stephen Melancon

Contemplating Creativity in Leadership, Business, Art & Life

What a Golf Tournament taught me about Life

Written By: Stephen Melancon - May• 20•12

So today, I played in a four man scramble golf tournament. Now, I played golf back in college, but up until about two weeks ago it had been several years since I picked up a club. Don’t get me wrong, even in college I was playing the “only broke 100 once in my life” kind of golf. For those of you who are unfamiliar with golf, suffice it to say that three digit scores are far from great when low score counts and the course is rated at 72.

I played with a few colleagues and we crushed a rival team. Those poor guys didn’t even see it coming. We wound up with a final score of 80, and our rivals came in at 82.

I know what you are thinking… Two strokes doesn’t exactly sound like “crushing” the competition. And you’re right. But when you are playing over twenty teams and you end up 2 strokes away from dead last, that’s something to celebrate. Everyone had a great time, and the weather was fantastic.

What More Could You Ask For?

During the week, I had sent my teammates a motivational email to prepare them for the big day. Here is the body of the email:

When we are on the course this Saturday, proving our dominance and mastery of the game, we must have ultimate control of our minds. No matter what happened on your previous shot… A flub, mis-hit, topper, hook, slice, out of bounds or in the pond…. When you approach the current shot, erase the past. In this moment there is nothing on the planet except for you, the ball, and victory! You have this glorious moment that is fresh and new…. Seize it – This could very well be the greatest golf shot you have ever made!!

If you are a serious golfer, please excuse the “dominance and mastery of the game” part above. That was the motivational and humorous part of the email. While playing in the tournament, much of the remaining philosophy from my email played out. I wound up with a great day and some life lessons to share with you.

How To Live Your Life (The Lessons)

As you go through life, careers, relationships, challenges and triumphs… don’t let the past stop you from achieving your desires. Your past does not dictate who you are in this moment and who you will be in the next. You must be willing to erase those parts of your past that prevent you from living your life today… in this moment.

If you can approach each moment and each new day with an open mind, you can make your dreams into reality. That takes intense focus and the ability to block all other distractions from your mind. Can you do that? Just remember that focus and persistence are the primary elements of success in any endeavor.

Every day you have these “fresh and new” opportunities that surround you. Take hold of your life, aim in the direction you decide and never lose sight of your goal. The next step you take could very well be the first step towards living the life of your dreams!

Leave a comment with your thoughts or other interesting revelations.

Or better yet, let’s hear about the dreams that you are going to pursue.

 

What do “they” know anyway?

Written By: Stephen Melancon - Apr• 06•12

Creatives are an interesting bunch….

What is a “creative” you say? A creative is anyone who has dared to think outside of the normally accepted box. They look at the world, see it differently, and have the courage to take action. Creatives are all around us, and chances are you know a few of them. We see them in every field from business, engineering, and law to writers, painters, film makers, and musicians. Creativity needs to be nurtured and fortified because it makes life better!

"Eternity in an Hour" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

"Eternity in an Hour" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

Replace “Fear” with “Belief”

Fear stops most people from following their dreams. The act of telling others that their ideas and passions “won’t work” or “can’t provide a decent living” helps the fearful feel justified for not pursuing their own passions. Anytime you step outside of the expectations of society, you will be subject to resistance of some sort. Don’t get me wrong, constructive criticism that helps you grow in your chosen path should be considered and applied appropriately. However, far too many creatives allow negative criticism (the haters) to influence their course. If you are a creative… Stop doing this! You can succeed… YOU WILL SUCCEED! The next time you are discouraged by someone, check out this Pep Talk and ask yourself these questions:

  • How do they KNOW that I will fail?
  • How do they KNOW what I am capable of?

How can anyone know that you will fail even if your road resembles that of another? Nobody else has your DNA, drive and absolute need for self expression through your creative work! You must believe that you will achieve your goals. Don’t let the fear of others drive you. Replace any fear that you may have with belief and the resolve to work tirelessly to make your dreams reality.

Share your gift with the world

If you never take the chance to share your gift with the world, everyone misses out. It takes a lot of courage to create something new, introduce it to the world, and open yourself up for criticism. The trick is to not let the criticism alter your path in life. Have patience, persistence and resourcefulness to make your passion into your reality. Your hard work and commitment will make all the difference.

What creative endeavor are you working on? (Leave a comment)

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The Battle of Trust

Written By: Stephen Melancon - Mar• 22•12

Do you think the people on your team members are dishonest? Are you always second guessing the decisions of the people that work for you? 

The harsh reality is that you’re the only one to blame! Let me explain.

"First Encounter - The Dryads" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

"First Encounter - The Dryads" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

The Front End

Be sure you hire the right people. Look for people that are in alignment with your company’s core values. Hire based on values over skill set. You will probably have some basic criteria for required skills, but don’t compromise core values for the sake of a rock star resume. If your gut is telling you that someone is not a good fit, you should keep looking. This is especially true if you think they are less than honest in the interview. Don’t fool yourself into thinking “everyone exaggerates in an interview”. Everyone doesn’t! 

Whether you are an entrepreneur or a leader in a mega corporation, you need a team of people that you can trust to get the job done. Anything less hinders your ability to reach exceptional performance. If you hire someone you can’t trust, you can only blame yourself. When you realize you made a mistake in hiring, correct it quickly before it impacts the team.

Stepping In Mid Stream

So you were hired into a new role leading an existing team or got promoted into the position. Congratulations!

Spend significant time with each member of the team to understand their strengths, gaps, and fit with the company values. The time you spend getting to know the team is an investment that will pay dividends during your time in the position and beyond. The same goes here as it does when you hire, values mean much more than skill set. As soon as you decide someone is not a good fit for the team (based on objective evaluation), make changes quickly. After all, it’s your job.

Along The Way

Now you have hired the ultimate team or mad the necessary changes. Your team is ready to achieve monumental success, but there is one more aspect to consider. This aspect of trust is not about basic honesty, it is about your ability to trust the team’s decisions even when it may not align with the way “you would have done it”. This is one of the toughest parts of leadership. You have to allow team members to make their own decisions and even mistakes in the pursuit of results. When mistakes happen (and they will happen), you need to acknowledge the error and encourage your team to dust themselves off and try again. After all, these are people you TRUST… Right? Don’t get me wrong, repeated failures in the same area usually indicate it’s time for a change. However, supporting an employee that makes first or even second time mistakes can build loyalty that will make them walk through fire for you.

When a leader is harsh with an employee because the method is different from the leader’s expectations, the leader’s credibility is at stake with that individual. The team member is also de-motivated and will likely be less productive for some time after the event. This does not even begin to speak for the social network at the coffee machine and the affect on other team members.

Method vs. Results

You have a choice as a leader. You can drive the method for how your employees will achieve the desired results, or you can drive for results and allow your team to be creative with the method. I always recommend the latter. People generate ideas when they are empowered by a leader that believes in them to deliver results. Relationships based on mutual respect and trust will drive people to meet and exceed expectations.

How to win the Battle of Trust:  Hire the right people | Focus on core values over skill set | Drive for results and let the individuals determine method.

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Three Principles of Career Success

Written By: Stephen Melancon - Feb• 23•12

The concept of “self management” has been around forever, but are you applying the basic principles to achieve career success in your chosen field? 

"March Standing at Season's Door" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

"March Standing at Season's Door" by Valerie Stangl Melancon (detail)

Take Responsibility

Entrepreneurs know this best, the core of business success is to take responsibility. That means to take responsibility for every aspect of your career: behavior, communication, successes, failures, and delivering results. The last thing that an employer or customer is looking for is excuses. Communicate failure (or pending failures) early. Be factual and avoid emotion or drama. Personally, I will readily accept failure when an employee takes full responsibility by informing me, explaining what they learned, and recommending a direction moving forward. Don’t get me wrong, nobody will accept repeating the same failure over and over again. If this happens, you may be in the wrong career.

Manage Yourself Well

You need to understand your job completely and be well aligned with the expectations of  your employer or customer. Take the time to master your core job functions. Be patient and build your skill and experience. Be willing to do more work than you are paid for, and your efforts will be noticed. Before you attempt to take on more responsibility or lighten the load of your boss, make sure that you are crushing every aspect of your current job responsibilities. You aren’t doing anybody favors by taking on a special project while your core responsibilities fall by the way side. Don’t let this happen to you! If you see that you have taken on more load than you can handle, communicate that early before it has negative impacts on the business and your personal credibility.

Everything comes down to Value

Your employer pays you and promotes you based on the value that you bring to the organization. For entrepreneurs, your customers buy your product or service based on the value that they receive. You need to understand what brings value to your employer or customer. Look at your daily efforts and ask yourself “Does this provide value to the organization or client?”. Don’t stop with asking yourself. Having a conversation with your boss (or customers) about how you can provide value will put you in the spotlight. That is a great place to be as long as your are ready to deliver high performance.

Once you understand what is valuable to your employer or customer, you can focus your efforts in the areas of highest value. Keep in mind, you will always have parts of your career that must be done and have questionable value. Use the 80/20 rule, and make sure that 80% of your efforts are in the highest value areas. A strong focus on delivering value will be noticed quickly, and it means that you are on the road to success.

Career Success Wrap Up

There are many elements (far too many to cover here) that lead to a successful career, and they vary based on the specific field. The three principles of Taking Responsibility, Managing Yourself Well, and Delivering Value are universal elements of business success. Make sure you keep these top of mind in your daily activities. Don’t forget to have fun along the way!

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Image credit and copyright: Valerie Stangl Melancon